Start by reviewing Pastor Craig's key points.
Song of Solomon 5:2-3
The Root Causes of Conflict:
- Unmet expectations.
Song of Solomon 5:4-6
To Resolve Conflict:
Start with an easy question everyone can answer. Then move through the questions you feel will lead your group to action.
- How are you about navigating to new places? An app or old school?
- What’s the dumbest thing you’ve ever fought over?
- Share a time when an unmet expectation made you a lot angrier than it should have.
- How does self-centeredness play into the things you fight about? Share examples and talk about how it could have been handled in a more others-focused way.
- How aware of your own self-centeredness do you think you are? How could you get a more objective view of it?
- What’s the difference between reacting and responding? Give some examples of times when this was handled well.
- How much of a problem would your friends and family say anger is for you? How do you see anger affecting your relationships?
- Which of your relationships has the most conflict?
- Describe someone who is really good at reconciling differences. What can you do to be better at it?
For Married Couples
- Kids, money, schedule, work, household chores, or maybe holidays with in-laws? Which issue most easily turns into a fight for you?
- List some good things about your spouse. How difficult is it for you to focus on these things during a fight?
- What’s your impulse in a fight — to talk or walk? How does this fit in to your natural personality? What can you do to make this work better in your marriage?
Live It Out
End with a challenge to take action. Lead your group to help each person identify their next steps.
- What will you do this week to restore a relationship damaged by fighting?
- What can you do to build your fighting skills this week? What would improve your relationships in this area?